For When You Lose Interest in the Things You Used to Enjoy You just packed it up into a box—perhaps you’ll need it later. Amazed at how small a box can hold 10,000+ hours’ worth of your efforts, you feel a tinge of regret. You want to still be interested in it—but aren’t. Faced with the choice between a novel endeavor and a farce of feigned interest, you choose novelty. [...]
You look at your calendar—red ink, blue ink, black ink; a crystal ball of your future in 30-minute increments, scheduled six months in advance. Your activities accumulate like puppies in a pile—there is always room for one more. Yet there is tightness in your throat as you contemplate your life. Why do I feel stressed? I do meditation, yoga, spend time with family and friends, my job is going well; [...]
What happens when Plan B… Plan C… Plan D… don’t pan out? What do you do when your transitions go awry? Before reading on, take a moment to notice what thoughts come up for you around this. Are things going as planned? What do you daydream about? How does your story go? _____________________________ Sometimes transitions feel like this: After months of careful planning you are skydiving through crystal blue skies [...]
A fish hook drops down in front of you as you read this, baited with three pieces of paper offering: Four-hour work week! Live the life of your dreams! Manifest your desires now! You bite the hook and are soon lifted into new realms, a fish out of water. Years later…….. You have now devoured personal development books and seminars and retreats. Your new life begins to flow... You get [...]
Envision Wile E. Coyote, forsaken by a bitter cartoonist to a thousand unhappy endings in spite of his talent. Plummeting from cliffs and smashed by rocks, he never catches the roadrunner. What do you do when you can’t seem to reach your goals? You could be like Wile E. Coyote and try again, over and over. Maybe if I try harder I’ll get better results. Our culture teaches us to [...]
Two skyscrapers. A thin cable connecting them. And you, with your unicycle, your parasol and a grin on your face. The day has come, and you feel your calves tense as you press the pedal with confidence and exhilaration. The tightrope tenses under your weight as you ride a thousand feet above everyday life, where one unexpected gust of wind may send you pedaling into the abyss. You’ve decided not [...]
Are you in a rut? You used to be passionate, but now, life has ground to a halt? If so, read on. Far from something being wrong with you, being in a rut and losing interest in things you used to enjoy are a sure sign that you have outgrown your former way of being. There is something very, very right going on with you. Think back to when you [...]
Reflect for a moment. How much of your life has been dedicated to stability and achieving basic comfort? You have worked hard to climb the ladder and have enough food, a home, a job, and meaningful relationships. Yet something is missing, and now you are in transition to find it. Part of you knows that transition literally means losing it all. A total overhaul. The caterpillar does not have the [...]
First, let's visualize the void: You are speeding down the road at night, in darkness so dense your headlights reveal no contours—no road, no trees; you can’t even see your hands on the steering wheel. Feeling a mixture of faith in your path and unease about the journey, you drive on and on in total darkness. Does this remind you of something in your life? Life transition is often opaquely [...]
If you have ever had difficulty changing something in your life, then this article is for you! The maddening thing about resolutions is that they seem so logical and simple: I will set my alarm an hour early and go to the gym at 6am every day this week. And I’ll feel so good! There is literally nothing stopping you from achieving your goal. Well, almost. As you may have [...]